Some of the guys in my church are reading a book by Bob Lepine in which he refers to something noted by Robert Lewis:

Real men, according to Lewis, reject passivity, accept responsibility, lead courageously and expect the greater, eternal reward.  Lewis rightly asserts that the mantle of leadership laid on men is distorted by the Fall in one of two ways: either a man is a selfish abusive dictator or, more often, he is a passive follower who has surrendered his leadership responsibility to the women around him. — Lepine in The Christian Husband, p. 24

Truth.