Escaping a Prison of Unforgiveness

Do you know what a litany is? A litany, in Catholicism is a form of worship or prayer used in services or processions. It’s generally memorized. It’s something you say over and over in worship. We use that word figuratively to speak of anything we recite again and again.

I remember a woman I knew some time ago who had experienced a great deal of pain. Each time I spoke to her she would tell me the same stories over and over: My daughter’s done this to me. My mother did this to me. My son’s done this to me. The church has done this to me.

One time I was remarking to an elder how this poor woman had such a keen memory for past hurts. He said, “Pastor Steve – she remembers those hurts because they have become a sort of litany. A litany of woes. She recites them to herself and to anyone who will listen.”

That’s what Peter is taking about in Matthew 18 – memorizing many hurts a person gives us.

Matthew 18:21(NIV) Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?”

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Leave No Bitterness…

I have observed one thing among true Christians in their differences in many countries: What divides and severs true Christian groups and Christians — what leaves a bitterness that can last for 20, 30 or 40 years (or for 50 or 60 years in a son’s memory) — is not the issue of doctrine or belief which caused the differences in the first place. Invariably it is lack of love — and the bitter things that are said by true Christians in the midst of differences. These stick in the mind like glue. And after time passes and the differences between the Christians or the groups appear less than they did, there are still those bitter, bitter things we said in the midst of what we thought was a good and sufficient objective discussion. It is these things — these unloving attitudes and words — that cause the stench that the world can smell in the church of Jesus Christ among those who are really true Christians. ~Francis Shaeffer in The Mark of the Christian.